Recently, I wrote a post about the need to fire staff and volunteers who may be hurting your church. This seems to be a big issue in many small town churches, but as one pastor reminded me, it’s often out of their control. In many churches, the pastor has very little power to do anything more than teach and preach God’s word. Everything else is handled either by a congregational vote or by a committee who may have a vision for the church that’s very different from the pastor’s.
So, what do you do?
A couple of ideas come to mind.
- Find another church to pastor that will allow you to lead.
- Plant your own church. Remember, it’s easier to give birth than raise the dead.
But, what if you don’t want to leave? You may really love the church and community you’re serving, you may feel God has called you there for a reason, or you may just need the salary they’re paying you.
What do you do then? Here are some thoughts.
Learn to be patient. A church that has been doing things the same way for years won’t suddenly decide to change just because you showed up. Realize this is going to take some time. Sometimes the best strategy may be to try to outlive those who are currently there.
Build relationships. Even with the people who oppose you. This is difficult, and sometimes not beneficial, but occasionally, you will win someone over if you take the time to care about him or her. Before you try to get a church to change, prove to them that they can trust you and you’re in it long-term.
Change what you can. It’s easy to get caught up in what you don’t have the power to change. Instead, focus on the things you can change. These may be very small things like church décor or even landscaping. It could be what curriculum you use for children’s ministry or Sunday school. Get out the church’s constitution and bylaws and figure out what you can change.
Focus on your family. The most important ministry you have is in your home. Spend time loving your spouse and kids. They should never feel like the church comes before them. Sometimes we think being a pastor means we’re always on the clock. That doesn’t need to be the case. The church can easily replace you. Your family cannot.
Pray. I still believe in the power of prayer. Prayer can sometimes move someone out of a position that doesn’t need to be there, and prayer sometimes moves you out of a church that’s unhealthy for you. Either way, prayer keeps your eyes focused on Jesus.
Having trouble transitioning a church and need someone to talk to? Visit my contact page and send me an email. I’d love to help or just be there as someone you can vent to. I’ve been in that position before, and sometimes it helps just to talk to someone who’s been through it.
3 thoughts on “What to Do When Your Hands are Tied?”
Thank you for posting this. I recently turned down a call from a congregation who presented me with a list of stipulations of what I was and was not allowed to change that I had to agree with before I could take the position. After several sleepless nights of prayer and scripture study, I came to the conclusion that it would be dishonest for me to call myself a pastor when in reality I would just be permanent pulpit supply. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done, since it is the only church of my denomination in my town, but God keeps putting things (like your blog) in my path that show me I did the right thing.
Renee, I think you made the right decision. It’s sad that many churches reject the very thing that could bring them life. Praying that God places you in the right position at the right time.
I chose to stay. And the thoughts you shared are exactly what I did. Great advice.