The Fastest Way to Destroy a Team

Leading a church is difficult. It’s made even more difficult when everyone on the team is not on the same page. If you’re smart, you do your best to make sure all discussions and debates happen behind closed doors with the appropriate leaders and that everyone understands why you’re making certain decisions and the strategy behind it. Once a decision is made, it’s your job to own it, whether you agree with it or not. Not owning it is the fastest way to destroy a team.

I haven’t always got this right, but I learned really quickly that in order to be united as a church I had to stand behind the pastor’s decisions.

That means sometimes I have to support decisions that I don’t like.

It means sometimes I may not like how those decisions impact my volunteers and church.

And it means sometimes I have to come off as the bad guy even though it’s not my fault.

It would be a lot easier for me to just pass the blame onto the pastor, or the board, or whoever is responsible for making the decisions. It would make me look better, and I could avoid any backlash or confrontation. But it also would destroy the unity in the church.

Part of my job is to protect my pastor and my church. If I’m not willing to deal with difficult issues and own the decision that was made, I’m not doing my job.

The same goes for you. It doesn’t matter if you’re on a church staff or if you’re a volunteer. You need to own the decisions the leadership makes in your church. If you can’t do that, you need to find a new church to attend.

If you’re a lead pastor reading this and you have someone on your team who refuses to own decisions and is always throwing you under the bus, you need to confront them. If you don’t, they’re going to keep you stressed out. Ask them to straighten up, and if they don’t, ask them to leave. It’s that important.

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Should You Cancel Christmas Eve Services?

If you look at current church trends, you’ll notice that Christmas has almost caught up with Easter as the best time to reach new people in your community. While that hasn’t been the case at my church, that’s what the statistics are showing, which means there’s added pressure on church leaders to make the most of Christmas. I’ve felt it, and I’m sure many of you have as well. But, what if this year we took a different approach to Christmas?

Now, before I get labeled a Grinch or a Scrooge, let me just say that I love the Christmas season just as much as any other average American. And I love reaching people with the love of Jesus even more than that.

But is adding another service or doing a service on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day really the best decision for most of us? Is it really worth what you’re asking people to give up?

Many times we’re asking our volunteers to skip out on their own family gatherings so they can serve at these services. We’re asking them to take one of the few days off they get for the holiday and spend it at church.

For what? Because we believe unchurched families are more likely to show up on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day than they are on December 22nd or 23rd.

Let’s say that’s true. Is that worth taking you and your volunteers away from family traditions? I’m not sure it is, but maybe.

I tell you what, if you’re still on the fence, go back a couple years and pull the names of every Christmas Eve or Christmas Day visitor you had. Then check to see if they’re still coming to your church.

If it’s working, keep doing it, but if not maybe it’s time you give yourself and your volunteers a break this Christmas. Your families will appreciate it.

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4 Big Asks You Should be Making Every Week

I’m convinced that more people would get involved in our churches if we just asked them. I went to one church for three years and not once did they ever ask me to serve. I got saved at that church, but they had no place for me to serve. How crazy is that? I just bet there are some people in your church that may be thinking the same thing.

The majority of people who don’t get connected to your church will quit coming within a few months. I was a rare exception.

People are coming to church looking for friends and purpose, and when they don’t find those, they go looking elsewhere.

So, don’t hesitate to ask. Sure, you may get a few no’s, but at least they’ll know you wanted them to be a part.

Ask them to do one of these four things each week:

  1. Serve on a team. People like to be a part of a team that’s winning. Or, even a part of a team that’s just being built. It’s exciting. Plus, you know you need the volunteers, so just ask. If you’re not sure where to start, check out this article for some ideas.
  1. Get in a group. Not everyone is going to want to join a group, but there’s a percentage that does. Groups are the best place to make friends and build lasting relationships. It doesn’t always have to be a Bible study either. Some of the best groups I’ve ever been a part of were mainly focused on just hanging out with each other.
  1. Give a little or a lot. For many of you, asking people to give is a huge struggle, but it shouldn’t be. If your church is doing it’s part to help spread the love of Jesus, then you shouldn’t hesitate to ask people to give towards that. People give to all kinds of charity organizations, and the church is more important than any of them.
  1. Invite someone. I’m a pastor, and I still need to be reminded to invite others to church. It just doesn’t come naturally to me, and I’m sure I’m not alone. It’s a struggle for most people. Most of them don’t mind doing it. They just need to be reminded every once in awhile.

Just like you need to be reminded to be asking people to get connected.

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